Cultivating Selective Focus

Good Afternoon and Happy Thursday everybody! 

Today, I am going to share with you some tips that I have found helpful in developing what I like to call selective focus what that means to me, and why it is important. 

In the information-overloaded world that we live in today, it can be really difficult to just tune things out and F-O-C-U-S 

The needs, the wants, the what-ifs seem to bombard us everyday and FOMO (fear of missing out) is rampant in our society because of things like social media, the internet in general, and this wave of over-sharing that has made focusing on whats good the only priority we see online. 

It can be exhausting to say the least. 

So how do you buckle down and pick something to focus on and make it great? How do you create value for yourself in a world where everything you have currently seems to be “less than” or “not good enough”? 

Being a blogger – being in the blogging community – being a part of the fashion industry – these are the things that cause me personally to lose focus and shift my attention towards what I don’t have instead of what I do have. The irony is that these same things that cause me such anxiety also happen to be the very things I am most passionate about. 

I love being a blogger. 

I love being on YouTube. 

I adore getting to share what I am passionate about every day. 

However, being apart of this community requires something of me that is difficult. What is it? The constant reminder to focus on what I do have, what I have already accomplished, and what I can bring to the table in such a saturated market. Selective focus on those statements “What I Do”, “What I Can” and “What I Already Have” keep me afloat. 

Comparison is the thief of joy and boy oh boy is it true! I think it is so important in our over-sharing-society to focus on what we already have and to CHOOSE to be grateful for it. 

Take this moment RIGHT NOW to focus on 5 THINGS in your life that are good. Things that are complete. Things that are whole. Things that you, in your perfect imperfectness have ACCOMPLISHED on your own. Through your own willpower, focus, and steady dedication. Let me list mine. 

I BUILT a website. Something I had absolutely NO experience with whatsoever when I first started. Something I had to muster up the guts to ask for (borrowing a heck of a lot of money from friends and family actually) and something I decided to focus on and commit to. 

I REACHED OUT for a partnership with an amazing online boutique. I could have waited for the invite. I could have sat back and sulked over the fact that every other blogger seems to have a partnership with a fashion store, company, whatever. I chose to sit down, write that e-mail, make that phone call and FOLLOW UP. (Femme Boutique I LOVE you guys!) 

I SPENT TIME on learning what it takes to become a successful blogger. The years, days, and hours I have put into learning about my passion are innumerable. I have been enamored with this profession of mine since its infancy and I have dedicated hours towards learning about it. 

When I am over-burdened, saddened, and give up hope – I don’t beat myself up for my shortcomings. I take the time to step back, unload, and be PATIENT with myself. Learning PATIENCE especially with yourself is SO crucial towards doing something GREAT. 

Last but not least – I have GROWN. When it comes to any business, any accomplishment, or any undertaking in life – even if you have grown a little bit – the measure of success is STILL there. I started my YouTube channel about a month ago and I now have 30 Subscribers. I could choose to sit down and focus on the fact that other YouTubers have grown substantially and have thousands more subscribers than me. Instead, I chose to focus on the fact that I have GROWN. Even in my little measure of success – I have still grown by 30 people who each took the time to hit the subscribe button on my account and for that, I am grateful. 

Anyways, I hope this article will help you take the time to be patient with yourself and show you the ways in which I’ve chosen to have selective focus on what is good in my life. The more you selectively focus on all the wonderful joys that are already present in your life – the more they will multiply! Its indirectly the best route to achieving it all. 



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